Caring for a loved one who has been diagnosed with Mesothelioma or another serious medical condition can be emotionally and physically exhausting. As caregivers we sometimes forget the importance of taking care of ourselves. I have worked with caregivers who have become overwhelmed, fatigued, and suffered from “caregiver burnout”. At times caregivers feel guilty if they take care of their own needs. It is important to remember that if we don’t take care of ourselves during this challenging time, then we may become unable to provide proper care to our loved ones.

Below is a list of tips on how to take care of yourself while providing the best possible care to your loved one:

1. Take time for yourself (schedule breaks into your day, get a good nights rest, practice self care and stress management strategies, and pamper yourself whenever you can)

2. Practice good nutrition (eat balanced meals and drink plenty of water – your health and nutrition are just as important as your loved one’s)

3. Exercise (a short walk a few times a week is a good start – exercising is a good way to take a break, decrease stress, and increase your energy)

4. Prioritize your tasks (make a list of tasks that need to be completed, do only what is most important, and delegate tasks to other friends and family members)

5. Be realistic (set boundaries, keep daily “to do” list reasonable, don’t feel you need to do everything yourself, and keep realistic expectations of yourself and others)

6. Continue activities that are meaningful to you (listen to music, work in the garden, continue your hobbies, and schedule time away from home or with friends/family)

7. Keep your sense of humor (try to find humor in everyday and remember “laughter is the best medicine”)

8. Consider getting outside support (attend a support group, gain strength from your faith or religious affiliation, access local community resources, and/or internet support options – these options provide us not only with a place to get assistance, but also an opportunity to help others)

9. Seek professional help (you may find yourself feeling lonely, anxious, guilty, angry, scared, frustrated, confused, lost, or tired – you may feel any or all of these – and if you feel overwhelmed by these feelings contact your doctor, social worker, hospice staff, or another community resource for help)

Most of us will play a role in the caregiving process at some point in our lifetime; as a caregiver, a recipient of care, or possibly both. Your role as a caregiver makes a tremendous difference to your loved one. It demonstrates kindness, love, and loyalty. Be gentle on yourself and remember that you are doing the best you can.